Comments on: Ego, Being A Man, and Opening Your Eyes

By: Anthony

Anthony — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 20:22:29 +0000

Jesus people we’re talking about a web site here. Something that isn’t even a real object. I get it we all love web sites. I do too I’ve committed my life to being a designer of web sites, but we must not loose site that web sites are not real. Not only is Avalonstar a web site, it’s Brian’s personal web site and he should be able to put animated gifs of dancing midgets. serious content, or take it down without having to answer to anyone.

By: Net OTT - Broken Kode Test

Net OTT - Broken Kode Test — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 12:51:52 +0000

[...] behind the scenes, on the 9rules member’s message board and obviously in many people’s email boxes. Scrivs is a bit pissed off at Bryan for many reasons and I got to thinking about this very slightly and I [...]

By: Jesse J. Anderson

Jesse J. Anderson — Wed, 30 May 2007 02:11:23 +0000

Though reluctant, I have to agree with this post. Though I normally don’t find myself agreeing with Scrivs I’d been thinking the same thing but surely didn’t have the guts to say it aloud.

After reading this this morning I thought about it on the drive to work and first thought — “what if I got cancer or something like that, and didn’t really want to share it on my blog? I mean, why should Bryan HAVE to share all the details (especially the bad stuff) with readers of his blog? Why should he owe them anything?”

But then I started to think about it and realized that the post left on avalonstar ASKED us all to care about it. As suggested above the site could have been left simply dormant while Bryan worked on his new design quietly behind the scenes as (also mentioned above) thousands of designers do every day!

Instead a cryptic message is left on the just oozing with questions and begging for curiosity and even worse – worry.

It all smells like a childish stunt begging for love and attention.

Regardless, people are people and we all do stupid things. I hope that Bryan is aware of the trouble he caused and will refrain from making a similar move again. And I am glad to hear that nothing bad has happened after all.

By: Bryan Veloso and Avalonstar → The Jim Whimpey Weblog

Bryan Veloso and Avalonstar → The Jim Whimpey Weblog — Mon, 28 May 2007 06:23:53 +0000

[...] If you’re a regular reader you’ll know I’m not a huge fan of Byran Veloso or his work. When Avalonstar was taken down, I wasn’t impressed with the reaction. The public’s reaction was sickening, he left a meticulously designed letter, if something really bad had happened, the site wouldn’t have been taken down and no letter would have been left. I don’t normally agree with Paul Scrivens but he could not be more right and I’m so glad Veloso has been called out. [...]

By: Amit

Amit — Mon, 28 May 2007 03:59:54 +0000

AS a casual reader of various sites but affiliation to no one, I found the cryptic messages at Avalonstar to be quite serious. I don’t know Scrivs, Mike, Thyme, or Bryan personally or even digitally. But, I agree 100% with Scrivs on this one. If a person who makes himself (Bryan) and what he does into a “brand” and makes himself somewhat of a public interweb presence, he at least owes the repect to answer or acknowledge to some degree the emails, txt messages, and whatever else was extended to him by his close online community. He doesn’t owe anyone the real truth, but a simple “hey i’m ok, just going through something personal but i’ll be ok” would have been comforting enough i’m sure for most of the people who care for him and his family. But, from what’s been made obvious, is that it was a mulling decision over his online design? I mean come on, get over it. TO have your fiance even get involved to further add fuel to the fire, that is ridiculous and makes even the casual reader realize how self-involved Bryan became with his whole “Avalonstar” image. I could go on longer, but I think his actions speak for themselves. It was over the top cheap theatrics ove something that is so trivial when compared to the grand scope of things. As Scrivs says, there are tougher decisions awaiting each and everyone one of us besides a redesign. Like they say, KISS – Keep it simple stupid.

By: Lessons From a Disappearing Act » Jack Of All Blogs

Lessons From a Disappearing Act » Jack Of All Blogs — Sat, 26 May 2007 17:50:25 +0000

[...] Not so long ago, such a disappearing act happened, and it was Bryan Veloso of Avalonstar.com who took a break from blogging. And this guy’s not just any blogger. He’s a well respected designer and creator in many circles (heck, he’s got 7,500 feed readers, according to his FeedBurner chicklet). Paul Scrivens sums it up in this post, which was quite critical of how Bryan did his “disappearing act.” Scrivs thinks what Bryan did was irresponsible and egotistic, particularly because people were trying to get in touch with Bryan to express their concern, and there he was, probably relaxing, basking in the sun somewhere, and not returning their messages. Then of course, some consider this to be one big publicity stunt. [...]

By: Steve O

Steve O — Tue, 22 May 2007 22:19:51 +0000

Why is this everyone’s business again? Going on the offense and airing someone else’s dirty laundry is pretty childish (aka not being a man). Seriously, this is the internet, not real life. Good luck, Bryan.

By: j4s0n

j4s0n — Mon, 21 May 2007 02:34:49 +0000

Scrivs, I really thought of you as a hero. but not right after this post.

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Mon, 14 May 2007 02:02:36 +0000

@joe – saying “uber-tacky” is uber-tacky
@avalonstar – I like your blog. No really- it is awesome. I like your work. I did however feel like there was some major showboating and dramatics when you “emerged”. I don’t claim to know you, but that’s just what it seemed like to a casual reader.

By: Meredith

Meredith — Thu, 10 May 2007 21:03:18 +0000

Real life > internet, sir. Talk about ego, here. Who’s ego? Obviously you have some bruised ego going on. Yes, not responding to e-mails is bad user experience in general and even one simple e-mail might have eased your worries, but aside from that, there is a big difference between private and public lives. Some keep things like personal affairs and issues closer to the vest than others. Blogs are a very public forum; whatever was going on with Brian, he probably just didn’t want his issues plastered all over the internet or to become wank for his 9rules clan.

Be happy that he’s back at all. Be proud of the revamp. Be supportive. Don’t be such a spoiled sport.